I asked friends and family to give me three virtues that make a family. Here is what I received:
The first and foremost key to any relationship is communication. Understanding each other is extremely important. You don't have to agree but you do have to understand WHAT the person is saying and WHAT they say they feel.
Understanding the WHY is often very difficult. I've learned that WHY someone feels something can sometime be tied back to past relationships, history or just previous experience telling you one thing and your partner another.
When you focus on the WHAT, you can break down current feelings and begin to understand the built in expectations that your partner might have.
Start with an easy exercise. List the top three virtues you feel make a family. Ask your partner to do the same. Do they match? If they don't it might help explain where frustrations begin. If consistency is #1 on your list, yet it's 5th or 6th on your partners list... that might explain why you get easily frustrated when your partner changes things or doesn't do things this week similar to how they did them last week.
Try this exercise between parents, a parent and a child or with any relationship you have within your family, immediate and extended. Try asking the question and let me know if you find out anything interesting!